"You know she's official when it's UNofficial, and she's still loyal."
Saw this quote a while ago and I got to thinking a little.
At first I felt like it only applied to a lady who lacks wisdom. But that's not really fair to say. We've all heard the saying a billion times.."Love is blind." Sometimes it paralyzes the mind and causes us to think with our hearts instead. Not the best choice in my opinion. We'll decide to stay with the one we love without realizing {or choosing not to realize} that letting go may be the best thing for us. Perhaps that's something we all come to understand a bit better with time and/or experience.
Then I thought, it really doesn't matter how loyal you are to a person. If there's been no conversation about how or where things are going, you shouldn't be all in, and you shouldn't expect anything..or should you..?
Yet and still, another part of me feels like you have to be super DOPE {Lol} to stick by someone, knowing that things may never be "like that". It's really awesome when you think about the love, strength, selflessness, etc. that must require.
As you can see, my thoughts are all over the place folks! I was hoping you all would share your own opinions with me. I'm definitely open to hearing them. Talk to me, men and women alike!
Blessings
Wow, that is kinda crazy Lol. You really do have to look at both sides of it though. Definitely agree that she should be appreciated. Thanks for showing love, Eno.
ReplyDeleteWell Meeks. Experience definately plays a role in the thought process. People do get "stupid" and irrational when they think it s love.
ReplyDeleteCommon sense goe s right out the window. No discussion, no progression. If a person is not looking for a relationship to develop, they will settle for "the moment" mentality. What ever happens happen and that is what they settle for. If a you are interested in settling down, then the lines of communication will have to be opened up at some point.
Aunty Mar right? Lol I like what you're saying, especially when you say that a discussion must occur before things can go further!
DeleteI can appreciate your thoughts on this topic Meeks. I think that you were half right initially by saying that, "it only applied to a lady who lacks wisdom." I think it applies to men who lack wisdom as well. I wouldn't necessarily call it wisdom though. I think that many young adults are misguided about what a real relationship is. After all, real love takes real commitment. Love isn't what's blinding the young lady to stay or allowing the young man not to commit. Often times I've talked to females in this same situation and they usually either don't know what they want out of the relationship, or are afraid of voicing what they want in fear that they'll "lose" the guy. And sometimes it has been an absurd amount of time (1-2 years) and still no commitment from the guy. I feel badly for them, and even more so the fact that they think that is love, an actual relationship, and what they have to settle for.
ReplyDelete"Real love takes real commitment."..SOO TRUEE MAN! And it IS sad because the female could (and probably would) end up hurt once she wakes up. Lots of time and emotions wasted.
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